Have you ever wondered about social interaction? How do we attract people? Once we get them attracted and heading our direction then what happens? Many people will say the game has just begun. Do you have game? How do we get game? All these questions were flooding around in my mind. The thing that marveled me the most was wanting to know when the game was being played on me.
So I looked back into my pass, and thought about all the guys I ever liked. I began talking about it with girlfriends, about some of our guy friends and their game. Then I realized I needed to get educated on human social interaction. The book, The Game by Neil Strauss, happened to have come up. That is when I went on my mad search to find this book that would lead me into the world of the game. I ran over to Green Apple on clement to grab the book I so desperately needed.
First things first, this book looks like the bible, seriously, with its leather binding and gold termed pages. Every time I had my book out on the bus or on the corner at the cafe, someone would ask, "Are you reading the bible?"
I'd respond with a laugh and say, "No, but to some people this book is the bible." And it is true, to some The Game, is their bible. Many of us would call these guys players. According to Urban Dictionary, a player is, A male who is skilled at manipulating ("playing") others, and especially at seducing women by pretending to care about them, when in reality they are only interested in sex, or a guy who is sustaining supposedly exclusive relationships with multiple girls simultaneously. I'm pretty sure many of you have had some experience with such a man or woman. O, and don't be fouled men, women can play the game just as well.
Anyways, this book is kind of creepy. I'm not going to lie, this shit does work. I've experienced it and witnessed it happen right in front of me. The book makes some interesting points. Through out all my fun times, I saw some of the theories in action.I wanted to share the experience and concepts.
Of course, the book starts off by quoting the old saying, Don't hate the player, hate the game. Which is a solid point, because we all play it, no matter if you notice it or not. It can be suttle or outlandish, but its there.
"A man has two primary drives in early adulthood: one toward power, success, and accomplishment; the other toward love, companionship, and sex.'' Do you have to have both of these to be a whole man? Maybe, but who is to say. I say bring on the love, because success will come if you just work for it.
"A pickup artist must be the exception to the rule. You must not do what everyone else does. Ever" Who doesn't want to be the exception to the rule? I think this is something to live by, no matter what. You always should be doing something someone else isn't. If you're not, where is the fun?
If you are trying to be a pick up artist or play the game, there are a few things you need to learn. "All your emotions are going to try to confuse you, so know right now that they cannot be trusted at all. You will feel shy sometimes, and self-conscious, and you must deal with it like you deal with a pebble in your shoe. It's not part of the equation." This goes with anything you do. You cannot take things personal or let your emotions get the best of you. Keep it cool.
When if comes to attracting people to you, you need to make a plan of attack and work it out. "FMAC- find, meet, attract, close." Being well groomed is a step in the right direction, btw.
It quit fascinating, these guys have created theories, which actually have science behind them. Its kind of creepy. "The peacock theory is the idea that in order to attract the most desirable female of the species, it's necessary to stand out in the flashy and colorful way.' Lol, seeing this in action at an event was too much. We can all see through your stupid attires, big cowboy hat with a necklace and Hawaiian shirt, not cute.
Just so you know, the pros wait to hit on girls, about 8 to 10 minutes. And the subject to which who is receiving the compliment has to earn it. Wow, so when did compliments not come freely? Or are compliments and being hit on two different things? I don't know, but you could of fouled me. If you're interested in a girl, tell her she looks nice, duh.
But how do we know if someone is interested in us, you ask? Well, we look for IOI, indicator of interest., which is when a girl ask if you're single, what your name is, body language, and etc. If you're given three, you're in. So come on give those IOIs. "As soon as you ask yourself whether you should or shouldn't that means you should." So smile at the girl from across the room and walk on over.
The best advice one can get from reading, The Game, is confidence. "You have to act like you are the prize." Babe, that is because you are, work it out. You have nothing to lose, only something to gain.
Remember to be up front with a woman. "Women actually want sex as mush as-if not more than-men;they just don't want to be pressured, lied to or, made to feel like a slut." This is so true. Keep that in mind. I rather be with a jerk who I know is not the best of guys than a nice fake guy that lies. Be real, love, if you want to just have fun, let a girl know. You'd be surprised by what you find. But if you want something real, then that is all good too. But keep your intention true and known, because you might get just what you need. She might be the freak in the sheets but classy in the streets.
Never the less, The Game, is an interesting read. If you're social awkward or just need some help, there is some good advice in that bible like book. But there are only a few big points to know; be yourself, and have confidence. The one important thing you need to know about the game is, it's always changing. The best player is the one that can adapt his game to any situation and handle it calmly with swag. Keep it classy San Francisco, and work it out.
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